My goal is simple - to help you discover the best version of you.

And there are many ways we can do that together.

I believe you have everything you need to be your best self. I am inspired to help others access their gifts, intuition and connection to their highest selves and inner freedom. 


Growing up, I struggled daily with feeling overwhelmed by the emotions of others, but at that time, I thought those emotions were my own. As a very empathetic and intuitive child, I would often apologize to other children because I could feel their emotional shifts and thought I was at fault. Like many empathetic people, I struggled to have clear energetic boundaries and took on others' emotions, which made it impossible to feel whole in myself. I struggled to make decisions; to trust myself and constantly felt like I was not enough despite what praise or awards I received. I also took on other people's emotions in order to heal them. I would often bypass myself through taking care of others because it helped me stay disconnected from my own needs. And also reinforced my ego. It took me years to see how this disempowered partners, friends, and ultimately, myself. 

When I was 15 years-old, I had a terrifying and equally profound spiritual experience that completely demolished my reference points about who I thought I was and wanted to be. I struggled immensely with integrating this experience and began searching for answers by studying eclectic mystic traditions and trying to understand my experience. At one point, I was diagnosed with treatment resistant depression as well as social anxiety, and eventually, panic disorder.

With the help of dozens of spiritual teachers, mentors and my own guides, and the completion of two master's degrees programs, I am now dedicated to helping others awaken and transform their spiritual, existential and difficult emotional experiences in order to gain meaning, understanding and empowerment from them. 



Xandra Hawes graduated from Naropa University in 2017 with her MA in Clinical Mental Health Counseling with a concentration in Contemplative Psychotherapy & Buddhist Psychology. In 2014, she received a graduate degree in Holistic Health Studies from St. Catherine's University. She is an LPC (Licensed Professional Counselor) in the state of Colorado and Reverend through Psychic Horizons Center, where she has completed the Clairvoyant Training program and is also certified in Spiritual Healing. She has trained with three, Colorado-based Shamanic Practitioners within the animism-based journey school of Sandra Ingerman. Xandra studied Folk Herbalism and Ancestral Healing through ritual and wildcrafting in Ireland as well as Norse Mediumship through the Seidr tradition with Betsy Bergstrom in the Summer and Fall of 2019. She also completed Past Life Regression Training through the renowned  Hypnotist and Coach, Zoilita Grant, in the Winter of 2019 .

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"Ultimately, I have learned that big self confidence takes big self trust.

And in order to trust ourselves fully, we must be vulnerable and attuned to all of the places in ourselves that are crying out for change, for release and for transformation."

Are you often told you are

too sensitive?

Sensitivity, empathy and vulnerability are HUGE strengths. If you have the gift of feeling deeply and want to learn more about how to feel empowered and confident in it, get in touch today. Let me help you transform. 


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